Do you see it? Can you hear it?
Do you feel it?
The angry roar. The crushing waves. The raging tempest. The menace. The fury. You’re seething. Enraged. Your malicious and spiteful co-workers have riled you. You’re inflamed with anger. A mighty flood looms.
How do you end-up in such toxic situations? With haters out to get you….
Maybe it was an argument or a disagreement. Maybe you’re being victimised after raising a formal grievance about something you thought was unfair. Whatever the reason, the main point is someone is not happy with you. Someone is furious and they are out to get you. And they will….if you let them.
The person you fall out with usually persuades others against you. They’ll ‘gang-up‘ against you. The hostility is ferocious and shocking.
You become a target of their aggression. The gossip. The false accusations. The stereotyping. All aimed at you.
Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?Sean Covey
Anything you do is viewed negatively. A polite request for help or stating an opinion and you’re labelled as ‘rude‘ or ‘loud‘.
During team gatherings like meetings and training events, they huddle together at the same table. Then they converge at the coffee machine speaking in hushed tones. They look at you with disgust. They shun you. And avoid you.
All this maliciousness leaves you in a barrage of furious emotions. You feel terrorised and persecuted by this brazen behaviour. The hounding is unnerving. You can’t stand it. You just want to disappear from their presence. To run away. You’re wounded emotionally.
But….hang on a minute!
This is outrageous. It’s madness. This behaviour is unacceptable. This is bullying. It’s tyranny at its worst. You feel the build-up of strong emotion. Rage. Fury. You know if you do not move away now, the flood is going to give in. An angry flood of emotion. You’re going to vent it out.
Conquer the urge to retaliate
Keep your distance. Do not retaliate.
Remain professional in all your interactions. Do not post on social media. Don’t get angry. Anger makes you bitter. And, clouds your mind. Avoid argument or unnecessary talk.
Be solution centred not problem centred. Stay focused. The difficulty is there to test you. Remember to say to yourself ‘this too shall pass’. It’s only for a season.
Like a computer, our minds are our ‘internal hard drive‘ where we store all the information we consume along the journey of life. That’s why it’s important to be selective of the information we consume. Choose information that help you build a growth mindset. A strong mindset.
Avoid negativity. During these testing times, reach out to your ‘internal hard drive‘ and retrieve some courage. Retrieve some strength to see you through this distressing period. Bring to memory those words of encouragement and get the courage to keep you going during this dark phase.
Haters are designed to stop you from succeeding – do not lose hope. Do not let the enemy triumph over you. Be ready to deal with any trouble you’re facing. Victory is yours. Stand strong. You’re courageous. And, you will overcome this passing phase.
Prepare for promotion
Remember, empty shells make a lot of noise and talk too much about others. They’re everywhere. In the workplace, in families and even in church. Their hateful actions will only provoke the greatness in you.
Hateful co-workers make you anxious. They make you worry. They make you stressed. And, they make you cry.
They push you too hard. They make you seek ways to escape their malice. Little do they know that they’re pushing you to your awesomeness. To your promotion. To your greatness. Their actions are igniting the dynamite in you.
Accept the situation for what it is. Make a decision to get yourself out of this toxic environment. Do not make emotional decisions – it will not end well. Let your co-workers’ outrageous provocation push you to positive action. Push you to your personal greatness.
Search around for opportunities. Something big. Something massive. Open your eyes….and ears. Think outside the box. Do not limit yourself. You have greatness locked up on the inside of you. It’s time to unleash it.
Opportunities usually present themselves in the heat of such seasons of difficulty. Big doors will open. Before you know it, you’ll have a breakthrough.
Something big will land itself in your lap. It will be awesome. It will be a master breakthrough. Much bigger than what you currently have. You will be amazed at the sudden turn of events.
Things will start to look up and shape up. Your confidence and self-esteem will increase. Do not let fear steal your opportunity. You’ve made the right decision. Let nothing overrule your decision. Take that step of faith and do it!
Work hard on that new opportunity until you realise your freedom and success.
Difficulties make you stronger. They make you a better person.
Now, go back to your haters and thank them for bringing out the best in you. Their false accusations and shenanigans have pushed you to your personal greatness….much to their despair. Bunch of losers!
Live life to the full